Family Constellation is a powerful method to help you recognise difficult entanglements, both in your family of origin as well as in your present family or relationship. Solution-oriented interventions bring understanding, which is followed by a deep relaxation that allows love to flow again between members of the family system.
Systemic Family Therapy was first developed by the German therapist, Bert Hellinger. In this therapeutic approach, we consider the individual as part of a greater whole – a family system – rather than as a separate entity. His individual behaviour, feelings and attitudes, have to be understood in the context of this larger group. As in any other system, unspoken laws operating within the family guide behaviour that we, as family members, are largely unaware of. Suffering usually arises in a family member when one or more members of the system unconsciously violate these archaic laws. They do this unknowingly, not out of rebelliousness as one might expect, but out of love – a ‘blind’ love.
The way we bring these hidden, family dynamics to light is to have the client use the help of other group participants to create a constellation of his or her family. The participants, representing members of that person’s family, are positioned in the room in relation to each other according to the client’s feeling in that moment. In this way, we create a living model of their original (or present) family. What we have found is that the feelings and thoughts of the people representing family members are very similar to those of the actual family members. There obviously exists an energy field that guides the representatives’ movements and allows them to have access to all essential information of the systemic field.
Such constellations are usually carried out with a group of people, where members of the group play the roles of representatives. However, it also works in individual sessions where cushions or other symbols can be used to represent the positions of family members.
This work uniquely uncovers any destructive family dynamic that may be lingering beneath the surface. But that is not all it does: when those standing in for family members follow their spontaneous movements minutely, not only are family entanglements revealed, but we also discover what leads to healing. Healing movements are supported by the interventions of the therapist, who brings in missing or excluded family-members, suggests new and more conscious behaviours, and finds healing sentences for the family members to say to each other. Finally a new, more natural and healing balance for the whole system can be found, where the love between its members can flow again in a new and more conscious way.
A constellation reveals unconscious collective laws operating within a family system and also helps us to fall in tune with higher laws that take us beyond both the personal and the individual family, and brings us in contact with another dimension, where we all are one. This has an immediate healing effect not only on us, but on everyone who is close to us.
OSHO Family Constellation is rooted in meditation and in the understanding that only through a deep love towards our family, and a profound acceptance of all that happened in the past, we are eventually able to leave the past behind, and to move beyond the family.
Then we have given birth to ourselves. For the first time we become the individuals we were destined to be.
“Half of your being consists of your mother and half of your being consists of your father. You are here because of them; if they were not here you would not be here. All that is happening to you is, in a way, because of them … One has to become aware of this …
“So whatsoever they have done, you have to feel grateful for. And whatsoever is happening to you and will happen to you, they remain the cause, they remain your foundation. So don’t forget the foundation, that’s all.”